Now that I've got some recommendations from you folks, and also done some follow-up research and thought I'd share my findings:
Differential: There are many sources for 9" posi units including OEM units, available through ebay and others, and Auburn units. Eaton makes a great unit, but not for the 9" Ford yet. The Auburn unit cannot be rebuilt- so that's out. The best bet appears to be a rebuilt OEM unit. But beware, units from ebay or other parties may be in poor shape, requiring many new parts to provide a good operating posi. My conclusion is to pay my local driveline shop to rebuild, test and warrantee an OEM 28 spline posi. My gears are 3:88 which are fine. The extra bucks seem worth it for peace of mind.
Shocks and sway bars: I spoke with some great folks who make sway bars (front and rear) for the early birds. Their web site is:
http://www.quickor.com/birdshots.html. These folks offer tested products and highly recommend high pressure gas shocks (KYB 5514's and 5517's) to be used in conjunction with their sway bars. The shocks can be had from discounttiredirect.com for $35.00 each with free shipping, and the sway bar prices are reasonable. My conclusion: Get the sway bars and the KYB shocks, and return the mushy Pep Boys specials I paid $100.00 for back to Larry's Thunderbird. Not that I'm bitter - I just know better now.
Gas Tank: I bought mine for $150.00 from ebay. With shipping, it's $170.00 out the door. The tank guys put these up for bid regularly, just search for "1957 Thunderbird".
Now that I've shared this, does anyone have any recommendations on frame paint or undercoating materials. I'm tearing the rear suspension apart now, and want to provide an original look, but with the best materials presently available.